Recently one of my coaching clients spoke to me of her yearning to step more boldly into her business, but her family members oppose her, and she is scared of what it might cost her to upset them.
We often aren’t told that starting a business is more than just a financial risk; it can also threaten your personal relationships. The way the entrepreurial process changes you can feel like a threat to people you’re close to. They might not want you to live life differently than they did. Or have less time and attention to give them. Or shine that bright.
So how committed are you to unfolding, not just your business venture, but your SELF? How passionate are you about your vision? Do you believe you DESERVE to pursue it? A controlling mother-in-law is no small obstacle. Or an unsupportive husband. Or a scornful friend. Do YOU believe in what you have to offer in this world through bringing your business to birth?
Gina Din was recently quoted as saying, “Most of what we want to achieve is only available outside our comfort zone.” But that may be outside the comfort zone of the people in your life, too—so you may end up handling not only your own fears and challenges, but those of your loved ones as well.
With some people, you’ll have the opportunity to get creative about finding ways to enroll them in supporting you (usually by showing how it benefits them). But others—and you all know someone like this—just aren’t going to support you, ever. Instead, they give you the opportunity to decide how committed you are to your SELF.
Here’s what I said to my client. I told her, this is not a small concern. Rocking the boat can have a very unpleasant impact in your life; you’re right to be apprehensive.
But at the end of the day, you’re going to suffer either way. If you upset the people who are close to you, they may unleash some very unpleasant consequences into your life. But if you see your own potential and turn away in the name of keeping other people comfortable—that is a sort of death.
So, ladies, the question is, how will you choose to suffer?
You can keep the peace, and suffer by passing up your own possibility. Or you can bet on yourself, and suffer the disapproval of people around you. Either choice will cost you something you value. You have to choose which kind of suffering you are willing to live with…then go all-in with the choice you made.
Starting your own business is going to bring you face to face with your biggest fears. It’s not a smooth emotional path. But if your spirit is calling you to be someone bigger, someone more than you have been before—you can’t say no to that and thrive.
So take a good look at the way your relationships could be impacted. Do your best to enroll your loved ones in supporting you. And if they won’t, choose whether you’ll keep going anyway.
As one woman to another, my advice is: go all in. Commit to your potential. Let your life speak for itself, kick butt with your business, and become the biggest, boldest, best version of YOU.